insane shit my mom says

I have a daughter who is 9. I keep thinking my mom will adore her and delight in her, but she never did with me and now she doesn’t with my daughter either. In fact the opposite is true. I recently told my mom that my daughter was getting bullied at school. To me, a normal response would be “who are these kids?” or “is she ok?” But no, not my effed up sicko of a mother. She says, oh, has she been telling you how her father is taking her in a limo for her 10th birthday? I’m like “huh? what..? are you talking about.”

Well, she says, kids don’t like it when others brag.  My daughter’s father tends to exaggerate and come out with stuff to impress her. Nevertheless I said to my mom — no kid deserves to be bullied, even if they say annoying things. Then she goes “kids that bully get bullied.” You tell me what that sounds like?  To me it sounded like she was saying my girl has been a bully, that’s why she’s getting bullied! If anyone knows my daughter, they know she is the kindest, friendliest, most generous-hearted kid you could ever hope to meet.

I’ve decided the only way I can ever get peace with my mom is to tell myself she is mentally ill and can’t help it. I only just thought of this today after battling on for years, thinking and hoping that one day she would start acting ‘normal.’  I’m 40 now and she’s 65, it ain’t gonna happen. She will keep saying crazy shit till the day she dies.

-TK